{"id":4171,"date":"2023-06-05T10:13:14","date_gmt":"2023-06-05T17:13:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/movingtolearn.ca\/?p=4171"},"modified":"2023-06-05T14:36:28","modified_gmt":"2023-06-05T21:36:28","slug":"disconnect-to-reconnect-the-1-key-to-happiness-and-longevity-of-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/movingtolearn.ca\/disconnect-to-reconnect-the-1-key-to-happiness-and-longevity-of-life\/","title":{"rendered":"Disconnect to Reconnect \u2013 The #1 key to happiness and longevity of life"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"4171\" class=\"elementor elementor-4171\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-1cda6bb elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"1cda6bb\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-64d8325\" data-id=\"64d8325\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-23c3489 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"23c3489\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-e9f0484\" data-id=\"e9f0484\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-12d3d3d elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"12d3d3d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.21.0 - 25-04-2024 *\/\n.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-stacked .elementor-drop-cap{background-color:#69727d;color:#fff}.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-framed .elementor-drop-cap{color:#69727d;border:3px solid;background-color:transparent}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap{margin-top:8px}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap-letter{width:1em;height:1em}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap{float:left;text-align:center;line-height:1;font-size:50px}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap-letter{display:inline-block}<\/style>\t\t\t\tFree Webinar June 7th, 4pm PST\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-0cddced elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"0cddced\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Come join Cris Rowan, pediatric occupational therapist for a <b>free one-hour webinar on June 7 at 4 pm PST<\/b> where she will be talking about how to balance screen-based technologies with healthy activity. Cris will profile the 4 critical factors for optimizing child development, behavior and learning and provide a quick review of the impact of screens on 5 child developmental domains: physical, social, emotional, mental and cognitive.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-322e875 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"322e875\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"color: #ffffff;\"><a style=\"color: #ffffff;\" href=\"https:\/\/us02web.zoom.us\/j\/87280220241?pwd=dkxSb3RQMlJ6K1gxMVZJWGxDODRmdz09\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Click Here for Zoom Link<\/a><\/span><br \/><span style=\"color: #ffffff;\">Meeting ID: 872 8022 0241 <\/span><br \/><span style=\"color: #ffffff;\">Passcode: 710132<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-6314aa9a elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"6314aa9a\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-59d32252\" data-id=\"59d32252\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ffb9c8a elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"ffb9c8a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Every time we connect with a screen, we disconnect from the humans who surround us. The screen becomes an interface prohibiting human connection, and consequently should be considered an \u2018anti-social\u2019 device as when a person picks up a screen, people in the vicinity either do the same, or leave. There is significant research showing the detrimental effects of screen time, and in particular social media, on the quality of human relationships. A <a href=\"https:\/\/journals.sagepub.com\/doi\/abs\/10.1177\/08944393211013566\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">2021 study<\/a><sup>1<\/sup> showed that excessive social media use leads to relationship conflicts, negative outcomes and screen addiction. Another\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.sciencedirect.com\/science\/article\/pii\/S1319562X21000103\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">2021 study<\/a><sup>2<\/sup>\u00a0found that 59% of participants reported prolonged use of social media had impacted their social interactions, negatively affecting family relationships and friendships while also making face-to-face communication more difficult. Screens used for long durations in isolation, perpetuate feelings of separateness and <a href=\"https:\/\/pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/27831756\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">subsequent loneliness<\/a><sup>3<\/sup>. Screens grossly limit face-to-face conversations, making it extremely difficult to sustain or enhance human relationships. Screen use can result in social disorders such as social anxiety, social phobia, or agoraphobia, as the user doesn\u2019t receive adequate amounts of social communication to develop social skill competence and confidence. As every partner, parent, teacher and co-worker knows, human relationships take considerable work and time to grow and blossom. Time spent in front of screens displace time spent in relationship building and erodes the very foundation required for achieving quality human connections. This article profiles research from the Harvard <a href=\"https:\/\/www.adultdevelopmentstudy.org\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Adult Development Study<\/a><sup>4<\/sup> showing that human connection is the #1 determinant for happiness and longevity of life. \u2018Social fitness\u2019 is defined and filling out below \u201cSources of Support in My Life\u201d chart guides readers toward identifying the quality of social support in their lives. The purpose of this exercise is to encourage readers to put down the phone and take a close and long look at the people who surround them, not only in the hopes that they can begin to value and prioritize human connection over screens, but also so they can begin to experience true happiness, health and longevity of life.<\/p><p>In 1938, Harvard researchers<sup>1<\/sup> embarked on a\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.adultdevelopmentstudy.org\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">decades-long study<\/a><sup>4<\/sup>\u00a0to find out what makes humans happy in life. The researchers gathered health records from 724 participants from all over the world and asked detailed questions about their lives at two-year intervals. This research is now in its second phase as researchers interview original participants children. Contrary to what you might think, it\u2019s not money, achievement, sex, exercise, healthy diet\u2026it\u2019s not smoking, using drugs or alcohol that makes us happy or unhappy. The most consistent finding discovered through 85 years of study is that <strong>healthy relationships<\/strong> keep us happier, and healthier, and help us live longer. Contrast this life-affirming information with what we already covered about the detrimental impact of screen time on relationships, for a good grasp on what is really going on today with human disconnection. In addition to relationship issues, studies also show that escalating use of screens by children and youth has resulted in <em>physical impairments<\/em> including developmental delay, obesity\/diabetes, myopia and sleep deprivation; <em>emotional problems<\/em> comprised of aggression, poor self-regulation; <em>social disorders<\/em> such as social phobias, speech delays and isolation; <em>mental illnesses<\/em> including depression, anxiety, autism, suicide and addiction; and <em>cognitive deterioration<\/em> inclusive of attention deficit, learning difficulties, poor grades, truancy and early drop-out. It\u2019s a time of reckoning in home, school, clinic and workplace setting and the writing is clearly on the wall. We need to grossly curtail our use of screens if we are to survive and thrive in this world.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-fd71c88 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"fd71c88\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-28215f6\" data-id=\"28215f6\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6a533c8 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"6a533c8\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>The following chart was developed by Dr. Robert Waldinger with the Harvard Study of Adult Developmental to help his participants identify the quality of social support in their lives. Take a few minutes to fill this in, and then give a copy to your co-workers, teenagers and help your children fill it out. Category definition is found below the Sources of Support in My Life chart.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7b429df elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"7b429df\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.21.0 - 25-04-2024 *\/\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}<\/style>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"353\" src=\"https:\/\/movingtolearn.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/chart2-1024x452.png\" class=\"attachment-large size-large wp-image-4238\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/movingtolearn.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/chart2-1024x452.png 1024w, https:\/\/movingtolearn.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/chart2-300x132.png 300w, https:\/\/movingtolearn.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/chart2-768x339.png 768w, https:\/\/movingtolearn.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/chart2.png 1333w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e45af04 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"e45af04\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><em>Figure 1. Sources of Support in My Life chart. Retrieved with permission from Dr. Robert Waldinger from the Harvard Study of Adult Development at <a href=\"https:\/\/www.adultdevelopmentstudy.org\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">adultdevelopmentstudy.org<\/a>, 2023<\/em><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e401afb elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"e401afb\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<ol>\n<li><strong>Safety and security:<\/strong> Who would you call if you woke up scared in the middle of the night? Who would you turn to in a moment of crisis?<\/li>\n<li><strong>Learning and growth: <\/strong>Who encourages you to try new things, to take chances, to pursue your life\u2019s goals?<\/li>\n<li><strong>Emotional closeness and confiding:<\/strong> Who knows everything (or most things) about you? Who can you call on when you\u2019re feeling low and be honest with about how you\u2019re feeling?<\/li>\n<li><strong>Identity affirmation and shared experience: <\/strong>Is there someone in your life who has shared many experiences with you and who helps you strengthen your sense of who you are?<\/li>\n<li><strong>Romantic intimacy: <\/strong>Do you feel satisfied with the amount of romantic intimacy in your life?<\/li>\n<li><strong>Help (both informational and practical): <\/strong>Who do you turn to if you need some expertise or help solving a practical problem (e.g., planting a tree, fixing your WiFi connection).<\/li>\n<li><strong>Fun and relaxation:<\/strong> Who makes you laugh? Who do you call to see a movie or go on a road trip with who makes you feel connected and at ease?<\/li>\n<\/ol>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-3f2ed07 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"3f2ed07\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-7924e98\" data-id=\"7924e98\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a9323a3 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"a9323a3\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Hopefully this exercise will help you to see who in your life helps you to be \u2018socially fit\u2019 and who provides the most social support for attaining happiness and longevity of life. You might want to spend more time with that person\u2026when you finally put down your screen! For additional information and strategies to help you Disconnect to Reconnect, check out <a href=\"https:\/\/reconnectwebinars.com\/technology-management\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Reconnect Webinars \u2013 Technology Management<\/a> series for parents, teens, teachers and clinicians.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-49e9644 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"49e9644\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-8493622\" data-id=\"8493622\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7e5e9a1 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"7e5e9a1\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<strong>Research References<\/strong>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3c05dd7 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"3c05dd7\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>1. Bouffard S et. al. 2021. <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/journals.sagepub.com\/doi\/abs\/10.1177\/08944393211013566\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Social Media and Romantic Relationship: Excessive Social Media Use Leads to Relationship Conflicts, Negative Outcomes, and Addiction via Mediated Pathways. <em>Social Science Computer Review. <\/em>Vol 40, Issue 6. <\/a><\/strong><\/p><p>2. Kolhar M et. Al. 2021. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.sciencedirect.com\/science\/article\/pii\/S1319562X21000103\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Effect of social media use on learning, social interactions, and sleep duration among university students<\/a><strong>.<\/strong> <em>Saudi Journal of Biological Sciences<\/em>. Vol 28, Issue 4.<\/p><p>3. Tromholt, M. 2016. <a href=\"https:\/\/pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/27831756\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">The Facebook Experiment: Quitting Facebook Leads to Higher Levels of Well-Being.<\/a> <em>Cyberpsychology, Behavior and Social Networking<\/em>. Nov;19(11):661-666.<\/p><p>4. Waldinger, R. 2017. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.adultdevelopmentstudy.org\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Harvard Study of Adult Development<\/a> retrieved from <a href=\"http:\/\/www.adultdevelopmentstudy.org\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">adultdevelopmentstudy.org<\/a>, 2023.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Every time we connect with a screen, we disconnect from the humans who surround us. 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